I’ve been thinking about something that so many girls, and probably some guys, say and think all the time.
That line about the guy (or girl) they want so badly, but don’t have - “I don’t deserve him. He’s too good for me.”
Or the one about their current boyfriend (or girlfriend) - “I don’t know what I did to deserve him. He’s too good for me.”
I’ve reached the point in my life where my self esteem is pretty high. I’m not too full of myself, but I’m confident in who I am and what I have to offer this world. In fact, the other day I couldn’t help thinking to myself that I definitely deserve my own Mr. Amazing, because I know that I am amazing. I’m so glad that I’ve come to that point in my life - a spot where I’m so sure of myself. It think it’s important to be able to realize that you rock - to feel good about yourself without the validation of others. I’ve come to the realization that I need to love myself if I want someone else to love me, and that I could never love someone who didn’t truly love themselves.
This brings me to the challenge that I give to all of you.
Make a list of all the reasons you think you’re fantastic. Don’t just think about it and list them in your head either. Write it down or type it out. The things on the list don’t have to necessarily be unique to you. They don’t even have to be things that everyone would put on their own list or a list they made for you. All they need to be are things that you like about you. You’d be surprised how many things you can put on that list when you really put some thought into it, and seeing the great length to the list is certainly a major confidence booster. Once you’ve created it, keep it in a safe place. Any time you think of a new reason that you’re fantastic be sure to add it on to the list as soon as you get a chance. Now if you’re ever feeling down about yourself take a look at the list and be reminded as to how amazing you are.
I did this a while ago, and I look at it often. Whenever someone says something negative to me I take a glance at it. Before I have to do something that I know will be a challenge for me I read it over to get an instant boost of confidence. Any time I need a pick-me-up I turn to my list.
Here's a few of my random things from my list:
I dream big.
I am a good sister.
I have a sweet smile.
I can sing the alphabet backwards.
I have monkey-like climbing abilities.
I know how to do spiral patterned tie-dye.